Arlene’s Executive Leadership Tip
This week is the last in the series on the ten aspects of positivity. Today we are going to talk about the tenth aspect love, as part of your executive leadership training tip.
Barbara Fredrickson author of the book, Positivity tells us that, “love is not a single kind of positivity. It encompasses the other nine aspects; joy, gratitude, serenity, interest, hope, pride, amusement, inspiration, and awe.” I’ve learned in working with my clients as a leadership development coach, that many women executives who have trouble feeling, experiencing and sharing the other 9 aspects of positivity struggle with the experience of feeling loved and appreciated. In addition they have a hard time expressing love and appreciation to others. Many times they come across as aloof and cold even though that is not how they want to appear. At the core of this issue is their struggle to create an intimate relationship with themselves and experience love of self based on what has happened to them in their past. Without love of self they draw a great deal of negativity into their lives. When women work with me on this they first have to be willing to look inside and face head on their inner feelings of loneliness and being unfulfilled.
Most people take very little time to be with themselves and work on this most special and divine relationship. In fact, they will defend every reason for not taking as little as 15 to 30 minutes a day for quiet introspective moments. What many women miss understanding is that this time of just “being” is the most significant thing they can do for success.
