What Life Lessons am I Learning?
Recently one of my clients sent the following blurb to me. Since it is an interpretation based on a passage from the Bible, I’ve rephrased some of it. As many of you know, I’ve been studying the Real Love philosophy developed by Greg Bare for about a year and feel this summarizes much of what I’m learning.
“EXPECTING more out of people than they’re able to give will hurt your relationships, not help them. People need the freedom to be who they are. That doesn’t mean they don’t need or want to change. But nobody appreciates being given the message, even subtly, that they must change in order to be loved and accepted. We’re more likely to change for those who are willing to accept us with our shortcomings, than for those who demand we live by their rules. One thing is certain: the universe does not change the people we’re trying to change until we adopt a ‘hands off’ policy. We must get out of the way. Even when we think we’re hiding our disapproval, people still feel it. It’s in our voice and body language. Prayer (no matter how you do it) is the greatest agent for change, not pressure. If we truly love people we’ll pray and let go of them allowing the universe to work on them in it’s own time and schedule. Many of those who irritate us are simply being themselves; their personality just doesn’t mesh with ours. Sometimes we want them to change when we need to change. Often the things we require in other people are already available for us to enjoy, if we’ll just stop judging them. For change to be lasting, it must come from the inside out. ”
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