Are you truly creating the future you want?

March 10th, 2011

It isn’t where you came from it’s where you’re going that counts.

                                                                        Ella Fitzgerald

Ella Fitzgerald has been a favorite of mine since I was a young teenager.  Her ability to imitate every instrument held me captured for hours.  Ella’s early years were rough and at the age of 15 she landed in a reformatory.  Despite all this, she became, “The First Lady of Song.” Ella maintained this title for half a century.

Research is proving that people who have difficulty succeeding are hanging on to past thinking, habits and attitudes.   Pushing people forward towards success in their lives and business is my passion.  As a Professional and Personal Development and Executive coach,  I have worked with and watched firsthand people who triumph over the barriers that keep them from succeeding. Each one found a way to let go of their emotions around past experiences.  They found a way that allows them to stop hanging onto their past.   Many of you know, this is not an easy task and requires hard, committed work.  Our ego minds work in a way that keeps us picturing and thinking of past experiences and pushing us to feel the emotions we felt at that time. One of it’s jobs, is to drive us back to the experience and explains why we hold onto the shame and pain we associate with certain experiences in our life, even though they are long past. 

I’ve learned through my clients and my own journey, that it is possible to let go of these old destructive thoughts and feelings.  The process I’ve used with my clients, business executives and entrepreneurs is arduous, but well worth it.  First, they become willing to let go of the excuse that this is touchy feely work.  Second, they recognize that facing what happened in the past, and the negative emotional attachment to these experiences is the key to making significant change in the way they think and act.   Slowly, they start to become aware that most of these reactions, emotions, and behaviors are not serving them anymore and are based on faulty, protective thinking.  Finally, they learn to accept these unwholesome reactions as part of the human condition and make peace with them, they start to respond differently and see significant change in their lives.   Ella Fitzgerald knew you had to “let go” and accept to create a new future.

Monday’s Pearl of Wisdom March 7, 2011

March 7th, 2011

“It isn’t where you came from it’s where you’re going that counts.”

                                                                        Ella Fitzgerald

Ella Fitzgerald was “the first lady of song” for half a century.  She has been a favorite singer of mine since I was a teenager. Ella’s early years were rough. At one point she landed in a reformatory.  Later in life, Ella reflected back and said, “these years helped her to mature. She used the memories of her youth to motivate her emotions for performance, and felt she was more grateful for her success because she knew what it was like to struggle in life.”  Her ability to let go of her past and create a new life for herself is inspiring.  Ella’s life experience teaches us that no matter what has happened we can move forward.

For a more detailed of how to let go of the past, please visit my blog on Thursday, March 10, 2011.

Monday’s Pearl of Wisdom

February 28th, 2011

The present is ours to enjoy, the future is ours to create.

                                                                C.D. Larson

I’ve been an avid reader of Science of Mind magazine for 20 years.  This month, Rev. Gregory Toole wrote, “spiritual practices are not about trying to manifest money. They are about ACCEPTING our worthiness to have our needs met, and letting go of limiting beliefs about what we can have.” 

As a leadership coach I’ve worked with hundreds of clients through the years.  It is rare to find someone who truly believes they are worthy of having what they want.  Most people have given up long before they have met me on fulfilling their dreams and desires.  They do not understand the concept of “digging deep” to discover their incredible magnificence and self-worth.  Instead they allow themselves to live from the typically negative definition of those around them.   Clients tend to describe themselves based on the opinions and criticisms of others.  When they learn and experience the truth about themselves, they draw easily draw prosperity and abundance into their lives.

Monday’s Pearl of Wisdom

February 21st, 2011

Do you allow your vision to grow and bloom? 

How do you truly create the life of your dreams? 

First you must get out of your head and into your heart (faith).  Let yourself dream, feel, see, and hear your vision(s). 

Ask yourself the following questions: 

  1. Are your dreams truly bigger than what you have today?  
  2. Have you given up on them? 
  3. Are you allowing yourself to RECEIVE your vision, or have your old thoughts and habits gotten in the way? 

Since 87% of our thoughts are negative, most people truly do not believe they can have what they want.  They do not understand the concept that your thoughts are the doorway to your desires.  Are you willing to work on your thoughts and habits to create your dreams?  If so, then you can create an inner knowing that all is well and all will happen.  Become willing to become willing to live from your inner knowing.  Do everything it takes to break down the negativity and bitterness within your heart and life will become worth living.

Have a great week and Stand Strong!

Monday’s Pearl of Wisdom

February 14th, 2011

The beauty of Valentine’s Day is we stop for a moment and feel love for those in our lives who are meaningful.  It’s not just about Romantic Relationships.  Remember love starts with us, the more we can love ourselves, the more we can love others.  If you believe in the “law of attraction” then you understand that the love you give out, will return to you tenfold.

My heart today is full of love and I send it to all who are receiving this.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

The Kings Speech and going deep!

February 10th, 2011

My dear friend Ken Jacobs of Jacobs Communications wrote this to me.

“You might encourage your coaching clients to see the movie, “The Kings Speech”. It has a lot to say about finding one’s voice, and about how anything is possible if we go deep, face our fears and walk through them.   It really demonstrates that once you’ve done so, you can help others through their scariest moments.”

I have also seen the movie.  Ken is sooo right.  “The Kings Speech” really impacted me because it reminded me of my own journey and how difficult, overwhelming and painful it was at times. Without the help and support of coaches, mentors, a loving husband and raving fans, I would not have been able to reach where I am today.  If you remember, the King gave up more than once.  However, he was able to draw himself up and slowly became willing to go deep inside, and face the demons that had robbed him of his dignity.  I know that the unconditional love of his wife, children and coach enabled him to keep going.   This was a process that happened slowly until the king was really ready to let his demons go, and once he saw it through, it brought his true desire to life.

This is the reason I am so passionate about my work. I get to witness and unconditionally support the journey of my clients towards creating and finding their own power.  Most of us do not stutter, but we do have memories, shame and painful other emotions from our past that hold us captive.  These are the demons that keep us from reaching our dreams. The movie teaches us that once you are willing to face and recognize the dark feelings and experiences for what they are, you are able to create your desires.  No doubt, the process is hard and tough at times. It brings us to our knees but at the same time it toughens and strengthens us to open and grow into who we came “here” to be.  Go for it, you will not regret it.

Monday’s Pearl of Wisdom

February 7th, 2011

As a member of a “girls” group for the past nine years, I can vouch for this. The love and support is beyond anything you can imagine.

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, concerned citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”   – Margaret Mead

“They Teach It at Stanford

I just finished taking an evening class at Stanford. The last lecture was on the mind-body connection – the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman, whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.

At first everyone laughed, but he was serious.

Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. Physically this quality “girlfriend time” helps us to create more serotonin – a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being. Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes. But their feelings? Rarely. 

Women do it all of the time. We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health. He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.

There’s a tendency to think that when we are “exercising” we are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged—not true. In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking!

So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health! We are indeed very, very lucky. Sooooo let’s toast to our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently it’s very good for our health.”

by Susan Boyd

Monday’s Pearl of Wisdom

January 31st, 2011

Studies show that Mastermind Groups increase one’s ability to be more productive and accountable. I’m proud to announce that starting February 16th, I will be doing a brand new 6 month coaching program, Women Standing Strong: Creating Life and Business Success. This is for professional women who are ready to stand on their own and reach the success they have always desired.

Accountability Masterminds for groups of “4″ will be a part of this program.

Alan Weiss tells us, “the best way to learn something is to make an effort to do it. You can read all the books you like and take all the courses you want, but they are theoretical until you try it”. This program is not about talk and lectures. It is about my supporting professional women in implementing change in their habits, attitudes and behaviors. This is about “doing” not listening. It is about learning to be accountable, changing your confidence levels and exhibiting your power in work and life.

To learn more and register, please click on this link: Women Standing Strong: Creating Life & Business Success

Monday’s Pearl of Wisdom

January 17th, 2011


“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.”

                    Ralph Waldo Emerson

Being a business coach who concentrates on personal and professional development, I have learned a thing or two during my 18 year journey. Most important, is that I allow myself to see the specialness of each day and all that happens to me. When I forget, and see the day as ordinary, life becomes cloudy and stressful. When I remember to view the day with positive thoughts and eyes, I experience life as extraordinary.

Monday’s Pearl of Wisdom

January 10th, 2011


“Allow your vision to grow and bloom”

                          RP

 
Most of us are busy working on finishing up our goals for 2011. During my years of coaching, and mentoring executives and business owners, on leadership skills, I have taught them that visions do not happen overnight. After visions are created, goals need to be set, and viewed as the seeds, for the vision to grow into reality. Like all seeds, before they blossom and burst forth, they must be nurtured, watered, fed, and only then, can they birth into existence.