While cleaning out my files, I found this old hand out. Self-esteem is the key to success. Read these statements over once a week. They can be applied to communicating with children, spouses and just about anyone who you interact with. I bet you’ll find one or two that you can work on.
Wishing everyone a great Memorial Day Weekend!
Patterns That Keep Self-Esteem Low
Having difficulty reaching out and asking for support and love (learned “helplessness”)
Trying to “get even” or to diminish the self-esteem or power of the other
Tending to be judgmental; putdowns that sabotage the other’s success; fault-finding; persecuting; punishing
“Holding out” on the other; not giving what the other wants or needs
Making, then breaking promises; seduction into trust
Patronizing, condescending treatment of the other that sets one partner up as superior and the other as inferior; intimidation
Making decisions for the other; discounting the other’s ability to problem-solve
Attempting to change the other (and unwillingness to change the self)
Showing an antidependent attitude: “I don’t need you”
Using bullying, bribing behavior: use of threats
Defending any of the above behaviors
Have a great week and stand strong!
