Thursday, August 15, 2013 Pearl of Wisdom

Are you connected?

When asked are you well connected, most business people think of their network and the people of influence they know.  Of course these connections are very important to have for networking purposes.  What if you looked beyond this group and were able to see a new type of connection that would benefit you daily?  Throughout my years of coaching I’ve learned that most people are rather lonely, feel unconnected and quite empty inside.  This affects their ability to be productive and successful.

Here’s what I mean.  Think of the times you had a great connection with someone.  You felt totally accepted, knew they really got you because they were an excellent listener and responded in a manner that showed how much they cared about your happiness.  Afterwards, you felt full and rearing to go.   Unfortunately, the majority of our interactions do not leave us feeling this way.

Most people we interact with are so concerned about themselves and their needs (because they are so empty) that they cannot be there for others.  Think of the last networking event or social gathering you attended.  Who really heard you?

This is what I suggest.  This week exercise the following tools:

  • Be on the lookout for the people who really care about your happiness (Are they truly interested in just you?).
  • Make a decision to interact more with these people.  I find texting a quick message such as “How are you” is great way to stay in touch with friends.
  • Be willing to tell them your truth.  “My children drove me crazy this morning” or “I’m procrastinating on this project” is truth telling. If your friend glosses over this, they are not listening.

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